I’ll give you a simple answer first. 1) Losing a child or grandchild is INORGANIC. It goes against the circle of life and the natural DNA cycle and strips ‘the older outliving the younger’ of their natural bearings. Period. 2) A parent or grandparent doesn’t just lose a kid one day one year. They lose their entire future and all that they envisioned it to be. The weddings they won’t plan, the grandchildren & great-grandchildren that won’t be born, and the discontinuance of their legacy is only a part of it. 3) Triggers. All of the setbacks, reminders, and special occassions that society continues to celebrate, while a huge hole in their family unit still exists. All of their holidays are now HOLLOW-days!!
People unfairly and while being uneducated in the effects of complicated grief, tries to compare child loss to every other loss and they are just not equal in any capacity. It’s like my Grief Tip #5 where I try to educate the world on this unequivocal comparison:
I also feel the need to arm survivors of child loss,with a quick rebuttal in Grief Tip#2, when these insensitive unequivocal comparisons are made. By simply saying “Let’s Switch” these words will quickly jolt the speaker into switching vantage points, with hopes of shocking the speaker into considering their ridiculosness, in the minimizing of the agony & devastation of child Loss. NOTHING COMPARES!!
**GRIEF TIP #5 ** (see other Grief Tips on our page)
“What if the person you are attempting to comfort, said to you that they lost their kid in a car crash that involved a drunk driver? When you tried to comfort them, you immediately replied ‘I know how you feel’ followed by, sharing that your neighbor’s cousin, lost her kid in a car crash involving a drunk driver too. Did you just attempt to comfort them, saying ‘I know how you feel’ and followed, with THAT story? Did you think that was comforting? Allow me to educate you as we review the facts.
Did you lose sleep when your neighbor’s cousin’s loss occurred? Were you incapable of digesting food, after learning of that death? Did you cry so hard, that you actually lost your vision? Did you lose your will to live? Did you entertain wanting to end your OWN life, when your neighbor’s cousin’s kid died? NO. You did not. That is not what YOU felt, AT ALL. So YOU are NOT feeling, AT ALL, what the person you are attempting to comfort is feeling. All that you just did, in your efforts to minimize her pain, was told this devastated, crushed, suicidal mother OF A DEAD PERSON YOU KNOW. You told her of another departed individual that made you feel absolutely NONE of what SHE IS FEELING. You only shared your familiarity, of a story which has infinitesimal similarities, of what her melted heart, was barely able to mouth to you, while she was seeking some relief, from her situation. Can you see that now?
You told a story. She is telling her life. Don’t put your story up against her real life horror and sorrow. Does that make sense to you now? “
Excerpt from chapter 3 ‘New Normal for Friends & Family’ from the Grief-Busting book, “My FIRST CHRISTMAS” (Order here: http://www.createspace.com/5068128 ) (You can see the rave reviews of other grieving parents at http://www.amazon.com/dp/1508492859 but for fastest delivery , order at http://www.createspace.com/5068128 )or Get your autographed powerful 100 page copy today, by completing contact form with your mailing address) It contains all the ANSWERS you need while your bearings are lost! Reach out, Get YOUR COPY ON IT’S WAY TODAY!!
GRIEF TIP #2 (see other GRIEF TIPS on our page)
“LET’S SWITCH.”
I want to encourage all of the GRIEVING ONES, to start using these 2 magical words. You are already barely functional, due to all of your bearings being lost. Then along comes an “Outsider”. In the GRIEF world, you should feel lucky that you are called this. ‘Outsiders’ some times say things that result, in added injuring, to the Grieving Ones. Most times, we,’THE GRIEF-STRICKEN’, lack the strength to even inflate our own lungs. We most certainly are not equipped for the added element, of having to defend ourselves against this unsolicited, hurtful, unwanted rhetoric. ‘Outsiders,’ was that your intention?
*NEWSFLASH*: If it hurts more AFTER you speak, intentions are irrelevant. The outcome will be injuring to the previously DEVASTATED. Are you sick of the sad ones kicking, screaming, and talking about their ANGEL? All the while you are holding yours, in your arms?? Here, to the GRIEVING ONES, I ask, do you want to know the quickest way, in the world, to stop this added hurt from continuing?? Say the words LET’S SWITCH and walk away!!
(This is all taken from the GRIEF-BUSTING book, “My FIRST CHRISTMAS” by Cathie Gray. GET YOUR COPY TODAY at http://www.createspace.com/5068128 (Read what other parents are saying http://www.amazon.com/dp/1508492859 but for fastest delivery, order at http://www.createspace.com/5068128 ) This is not MY story, It is all of OUR story. This ‘help to healing’ manual will move your entire family’s grief mountain IMMENSELY!! Be sure to FOLLOW this blog. There is STRENGTH in NUMBERS. (Reach out on FB facebook.com/cat.gray.710 or complete contact form for your AUTOGRAPHED copy!! )
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September 22, 2016 at 1:32 pm
Great, no one else has ever had these words to help me feel not alone. Thank u Cat Gray
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September 22, 2016 at 4:44 pm
Comment your email address to get future messages of HOPE! You are so welcome Friend!
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October 2, 2016 at 2:47 am
Love
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September 22, 2016 at 1:57 pm
Thank you do much
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September 22, 2016 at 4:43 pm
Comment your email address so I can add you for future messages of Hope
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September 25, 2016 at 11:25 pm
Deonte Rashad Allen September 2, 1996 – February 24, 2016. Rest easy baby. I love you..
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September 26, 2016 at 1:11 am
FLY SLOW DEONTE!! Dominique I am so sorry about your PRINCE. I am glad though that you have the book “My FIRST CHRISTMAS”by Cathie Gray. I assure you that you will have easement soon!
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September 29, 2016 at 3:44 pm
I have had the privedge and HONOR of calling Cat my friend for a while now. I found her by chance after losing my unborn child to domestic violence, thenbeing abused and shamed for the miscarriage. I was shattered and destroyed. I swear you you that this beautiful woman has strength and love enough for every one of us, and makes sure that you know she’s right by your side whenever you may need a friend. This book that she has so lovingly written will help heal your soul.
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September 29, 2016 at 4:01 pm
Thank You from the bottom of my heart, My Sister in GRIEF!! You give me strength to carry on! I will ALWAYS be here for YOU!
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September 29, 2016 at 4:08 pm
Thank you for sharing.
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September 29, 2016 at 4:10 pm
You are so welcome Ms Mary. Be sure to FOLLOW my blog or comment your email address to be added.
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September 29, 2016 at 5:10 pm
Also a grieving mother/grandmother. It helps to write about it, doesn’t it?
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September 29, 2016 at 5:33 pm
It does. Please know that I am immensely sorry about your Loss. We will never get over it. We will just have to learn to get through, TOGETHER. My saving grace is sharing the AIR i have left in my lungs, with my Grieving Brothers & Sisters! FLY SLOW NEAL, DEVON & IAN. I know they will hold you now that you cant hold them.
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September 29, 2016 at 5:13 pm
Neal Alastair Williams, 5/19/80-8/8/07
Devon Michael Williams 7/26/00-8/8/07
Ian Harold Williams 9/27/03-8/8/07
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September 29, 2016 at 5:47 pm
Thanks for sharing and hopefully people will begin to understand what a greiving parent feels and that this journey is oh so difficult. I write this in dedication to my daughter and angel Camryn 8-17-2000 💕
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September 29, 2016 at 5:49 pm
FLY SLOW CAMRYN!! We have to educate the world TOGETHER!!
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September 29, 2016 at 5:49 pm
Kristin Linnae Higginbotham
3~24~88/6~21~14
My beautiful princess❤️
Thank you for this article. I Wish people would understand that I will NEVER get over her. I will always celebrate her life!
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September 29, 2016 at 5:51 pm
You are so welcome Julie. FLY SLOW KRISTIN!!
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September 29, 2016 at 7:15 pm
Please sign this petition https://www.change.org/p/randy-leach-freedom-of-information-act-to-release-unseal-all-files-from-kbi-lvsd
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September 29, 2016 at 7:25 pm
My 18 year old daughter was killed by a drunk driver. To add to the pain, it was a daughter’s best friend that was behind the wheel driving 120 mph driving drunk. The friend survived and still drinking. It hurts to hear about her still doing the things that took my daughter’s life.
Carson Olivia Craig
10/31/1996 -10/20/2015
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September 29, 2016 at 9:16 pm
Kandi, I am so very sorry about your Princess Carson. Even though you cant hold her, I know she will find a way to hold You!
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September 29, 2016 at 8:04 pm
Love and miss my children, “the Heavenly Healey’s”
Katy Healey- 11-7-95 – 4-30-15
Kellen Healey 1-21-86 – 7-4-15
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September 29, 2016 at 9:00 pm
Matilda 17-6-2016 – 27-7-2016
Fly high my darling angel
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September 29, 2016 at 10:46 pm
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September 30, 2016 at 12:51 am
Reblogged this on juliepeck5's Blog.
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September 30, 2016 at 12:55 am
Josiah Julian Peck
1/2/2011-4/1/2011.
Thank you so very much for this. I’m sharing this everywhere, because it is something people so desperately need to know and understand. Lots of Love Cat ❤
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September 30, 2016 at 2:58 am
Thank You Julie!! FLY SLOW JOSIAH!!
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September 30, 2016 at 3:23 am
I lost my son, Zach on July 3rd, 2016. I found him dead of an overdose sitting on the end of his bed. I don’t know how to deal with his death. It is the most unnatural feeling in the world. Every morning when I wake up I feel like someone punches me hard in the stomach . How can I every be happy again when he is in the ground? I’m so misersble and sad.
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September 30, 2016 at 8:10 pm
FLY SLOW ZACH! Please read my reply on your other comment, My Friend.
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September 30, 2016 at 3:24 am
I lost my son, Zach on July 3rd, 2016. I found him dead of an overdose sitting on the end of his bed. I don’t know how to deal with his death. It is the most unnatural feeling in the world. Every morning when I wake up I feel like someone punches me hard in the stomach . How can I every be happy again when he is in the ground? I’m so misersble and sad.
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September 30, 2016 at 8:09 pm
Susanne, I am so so sorry about your Zach. This is so inorganic, that our bearings are forever lost. I wish none of us were here. Be kind and easy on this new fragile ‘You’. The quest for a new normal is a neverending journey. Based on the circumstances Ms Susanne you have PTSD. Please read the chapter GRIEF PTSD is REAL in my book, “My FIRST CHRISTMAS” http://www.createspace.com/5068128 to get it faster. There you will many answers to help you Breathe My friend. Please follow my blog, so that you will have some support at your disposal. Please also read MISSING YOUR ANGEL on this blog. I am here for YOU! We will never get OVER it, but we will learn to get THROUGH,TOGETHER
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September 30, 2016 at 3:27 am
I love what you wrote thank you .id Ike t o follow you
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September 30, 2016 at 7:54 pm
Thank You Ms Lu Ann! People like you give me the strength to continue to advocate for US & OUR ANGELS!
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October 1, 2016 at 5:07 am
Thank you for posting this. My heart breaks daily. My son
David 11/16/85- 4/8/08,
car accident and my daughter LeAnne 4/28/92-1/28/15
car accident also. I miss them so much.
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October 3, 2016 at 4:32 pm
Juanita, I am so very sorry about David & LeAnne. We will never get over our loss. I am certain that you have PTSD, and I certainly hope that you take ahold of the help in the chapter ‘Grief PTSD is REAL’ of the Grief-busting book, “My FIRST CHRISTMAS” http://WWW.createspace.com/5068128 . I am here for you My Grieving Sister. Breathe, Be Kind to yourself. Please continue
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October 2, 2016 at 8:37 pm
Tayjon J Cleveland
1/22/124 – 8/15/16
Love you always.
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October 3, 2016 at 3:53 pm
FLY SLOW TAYJON!
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October 6, 2016 at 10:00 am
In memory of my beloved son Kevin Ortiz. I wake up missing you and try to sleep missing you. Forever loved and missed.
10-18-94 – 6-15-2016
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October 8, 2016 at 1:25 am
That “Let’s Switch” is genius! I get so tired of hearing about how much they understand because their grandmother died or even their parents died. THEY ARE SUPPOSED TO DIE BEFORE YOU. Our children are not. Thank you for those two words; I will use them the next time the situation warrants. I lost my son Anthony (23) on March 1, 2014 to a heroin overdose. People sometimes ask me why I’m not over it yet. Are you kidding me?
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October 8, 2016 at 4:46 pm
Stacy, I am so grateful that you appreciated LETS SWITCH! I had to get that out there for us. We have enough weight to carry, we dont need these hurtful interactions & unfair comparisons, outright ridiculous comparisons. If you like that, you will love the 100 pages of my book, “My FIRST CHRISTMAS” I can get you an autographed copy on its way! Read the reviews at http://www.amazon.com/dp/1508492859 but you can get copy faster at http://www.createspace.com/5068128 or reach out to me, YOU ARE GOING to have all the retort and armor you need, there!
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October 8, 2016 at 4:52 pm
Yes, I would like a copy. And once I read it, I may want a few copies for my grief support group too!
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October 8, 2016 at 5:04 pm
Stacy, I can get you a copy for $12.99+2.50 postage, or 2 copies for $25. You will DONATE the funds at http://www.thekcamovement.com and then give me conf# of DONATION, along with your address & I can get this Grief-Busting read to You! I can not wait for you to have this. Send me a friend request on FB, so you can pm your address…..
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October 8, 2016 at 9:05 pm
Heidi Marie Hunt
3/1/95 💖 9/14/12
FOREVER loved and missed!
Her sister struggles daily missing her. She lost her “hope” for the future! So many dreams gone in a flash. Thank you for sharing your wisdom!
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October 11, 2016 at 6:54 am
Fly Slow Sweet Heidi! Karie, I am so very sorry about your Daughter. It is certainly an inorganic neverending journey we are on. Please be sure you FOLLOW my blog as there will be information here for her Sister. I would also highly recommend that you get her a copy of “My FIRST CHRISTMAS” IMMEDIATELY. It will help her immensely with her grief mountain. She does not have to agonize further. Just as Chelsea’s siblings are living FOR HER now. This book is the key to end her struggle! http://www.createspace.com/5068128
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October 9, 2016 at 4:21 am
Warren van Buuren 9th January 1981 -4 July 2016 . Lost my only child and found him dead in his apartment heart failure. I will never get over this my life shattered forever. Thanks for this blog and will buy the book
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October 14, 2016 at 2:07 am
MS Colleen I am SO SO VERY Sorry for your Loss. I know that you will need to read the ‘Grief PTSD is REAL’ chapter within “My FIRST CHRISTMAS” sooner than later. I can get you an autographed copy out the door faster than Amazon. Provide me with your address on the Contact form and I will reply with the link for you to DONATE your book cost. You can also read the reviews at http://www.amazon.com/dp/1508492859 but you can get faster delivery at http://www.createspace.com/5068128 if you didnt prefer autographed. Your life has changed forever. But we can work together to recalibrate your bearings, so that you can live FOR WARREN, never leaving him behind!
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October 9, 2016 at 1:39 pm
Daniel Phyllip Lewis 020201- 170301 my precious baby stolen by sids xxxxx
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October 11, 2016 at 1:55 pm
Fly Slow Sweet Daniel! Be sure to send your Mommy a Big Sign. Tracey I am so very sorry for your Loss. I know that since you can’t hold your Sweet Daniel, He will find a way to hold you, now!
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October 9, 2016 at 8:22 pm
I would love to have a copy of your book Cat. I unfortunately am not in a position to buy one (disabled and living on disability). I lost my son in January 2006 – 1 week after his 19th birthday. It is believed he had a aneurysm following a bad bout of pneumonia. I still can’t breathe, or function “normally”. I wish peace and love to all of us and your two little words are quite the “stop them in their tracks” statement. What simple, POWERFUL, words. Thank you! I can be reached at: Flowerpower66@sbcglobal.net
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October 11, 2016 at 2:29 pm
I am so very sorry for your Loss Janice. I know that even though you can’t hold your boy, that he will find a way to hold you, now! Janice, I have an ambassador propgram, if you share my posts and information from my FB page, about this book & tag people. If 3 of your friends purchase, you get a FREE copy!! So start posting my friend, and the reviews at http://www.amazon.com/dp/1508492859 will help this book sale itself! I’ll be waiting for you, Friend!
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October 10, 2016 at 4:23 am
I think you are going to help a lot more people about this epidemic that needs to be focused on more.. To get rid of the stigma.. My son Dennis L. Robbins 11-16-88 – 01-26-2013 I will never forget you or stop loving you. I miss you every day. As long as I am on this earth I will make sure no one ever forgets you and I will always be telling your son about how much you loved him and about everything great about you… Thank you for your blog Cat.
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October 11, 2016 at 2:36 pm
Fly Slow Dennis! I am sorry that any of us are here, Lori, but we have to educate the world so as to create a better network of support for Us! Thanks for appreciating my shattered soul’s work. Ms Lori, as soon as you can get a copy of “My FIRST CHRISTMAS”for Dennis son. There is a 19pg chapter there for Grieving Children, called S.O.S. Save Our Surviving-children that is assuredly moving these young brokenhearted one’s Grief Mountain!
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October 10, 2016 at 6:45 pm
Nice info.. Thanks
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October 11, 2016 at 2:40 pm
You are Welcome! Be sure to FOLLOW this blog to get future messages of HOPE & Powerful Grief-Busting info!
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October 12, 2016 at 10:12 pm
Grieving is so beyond misunderstood. The process, the headspace, the words to say, the validation needed, and so much more. My daughter just entered hospice and I write about grieving too. I hate we are in this boat together, but the solidarity sure helps.
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October 12, 2016 at 10:34 pm
You are absolutely correct. I am so sorry about Your Daughter. What is her name? I will keep her in my prayers. Grief is assuredly misunderstood! It is why I spend all of my waking hours trying to educate the world.
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October 12, 2016 at 10:38 pm
Her name is Bea! Picture on my website. Together we can make a difference. Thanks for all you do!
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October 13, 2016 at 5:08 am
Thank you for understanding. I’m so numb. My 21 year old son passed away Friday on his sisters Birthday. We miss you Landon Barbeau
5-10-95 -10-7-2016
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October 15, 2016 at 12:18 pm
Melanie, my heart breaks a little more every time a mother, father, and family join the horrible club of child loss. I am so very sorry thst you are here. Even though you can’t hold your Sweet Landon, I know that he will find a way to hold you & his sister now! I will be right here to hold your hand and if you ever need me. You wont have to take this tumultuous journey alone. FLY SLOW LANDON!
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October 18, 2016 at 7:43 am
Joshua Michael Taylor
7~7~83▪▪8~20~2004
My ever so sweet baby boy!
Joshua was born with Neurofibromotosis also known as Elephant Mans disease, except he didn’t look sick because his was internal not external, but it attacks the organs, he had brain tumors, 4 minimum MRI’S a year and never asked why me, I told him one day when he was 8 how proud I was that he had never said that and he told me, oh no momma, I never would because that would be wishing it on someone else…out of the mouths of babes! Anyone who has the ability to donate, please think of the Texas Neurofibromotosis society..few people donate because it’s not a well-known disease, rare, they did for Joshua and do wonderful things for these children!
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October 18, 2016 at 2:21 pm
Lisa, I am so so very sorry about your Joshua Michael!! He sounds like an extremely brave, intelligent, selfless Angel, even while on earth!! When you get a chance please read “My FIRST CHRISTMAS” at http://www.createspace.com/5068128 There is an entire chapter on how & why to start a CAUSE. It is all outlined and you can raise Awareness in HONOR OF JOSHUA!!
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October 20, 2016 at 4:28 am
SGT Tristan C Bethel, USMC
2/19/1991 – 7/19/2016
Forever in my heart
Never forgotten
Love you to the moon and back ❤❤❤❤❤ Momma
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October 23, 2016 at 6:30 pm
FLY SLOW SWEET TRISTAN!
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October 20, 2016 at 4:33 am
SGT Tristan C Bethel, USMC
2/19/1991 – 7/19/2016
Forever in my heart
Never forgotten
Love you to the moon and back
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Momma
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October 23, 2016 at 6:31 pm
Robin, Even though you cant hold him, I know that he will HOLD YOU NOW!
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October 20, 2016 at 10:09 am
3 months ago my son was killed in a motorcycle accident in Florida while attending Explosive Ordinance Disposal school. It has been horrific for the whole family.
SGT Tristan C Bethel, USMC 2/19/1991 – 7/19/2016
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October 23, 2016 at 6:33 pm
This is such an inorganic journey that we are on. I am SO VERY SORRY about Tristan. He will NEVER BE FORGOTTEN! Thanks for Sharing Him with Us! I SALUTE You & Him for His Service!
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October 22, 2016 at 2:50 pm
I lost my daughter 2.5.16. Michelle was riding a horse in Texas. She was on a bridge and 2 trucks, going 70mph trying to pass and one truck hit her and the horse! Both gone instantly! We didn’t know where she was until she was flown back to Illinois 2.12.16! She was taken for an autopsy someplace in Dallas – from Gatesville Texas! We are devastated! This pain is infectious! It worsens and is like a tidal wave at times. The Holidays are coming soon, I’d like to be a bear and sleep thru the next five months! The only thing I feel I have is my immediate family, and actually people I graduated 8th grade with in 1969. My husband, an earth daughter and 3 grandchildren. One of which she adopted who is Michelle’s daughter (4). All other family has moved on….moved on since her funeral on 2.16.16! This journey is overwhelming. It took my husband and myself 17 years to have her….
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October 23, 2016 at 6:40 pm
It is so sad how the world abandons us on this inorganic life-changing journey we got catapulted onto. I am So Very Sorry about Michelle. I hope to educate the world one day! Michelle will NEVER BE FORGOTTEN by Us, Here. Please FOLLOW my blog Dawn so that you can have some HELP along the way. Please read the post here MISSING YOUR ANGEL too. For her child and you, I hope that you read “My FIRST CHRISTMAS” it helps immensely! http://www.createspace.com/5068128
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October 23, 2016 at 1:29 pm
My grief is complicated because I lost too many family members in one year. My 84 year old Mother was diagnosed with a Stage 4 brain tumor on July 4th, 2006. I traveled to Florida and stayed for 3 weeks. I went back in January 2007 and she passed away. On August 6th, 2007 I had two Township police officers at my door to notify me that my oldest son Shaun, Chief of a Fire Department for two years had died at the young age of 29. It was the beginning of my nightmare that still renders me paralyzed on certain days because I can not erase my child or his life as some would have me do. Four weeks later I had my youngest son out clothes shopping for his senior year of H.S. and I was notified via cell phone call on Sept. 6th, 2007 that my only sister had died. Thrown from the planet I could not escape grief but I had to push to get up and live. My grief is centered on my son Shaun – there will always be a void in my heart.
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October 23, 2016 at 6:45 pm
Denise, I am SO VERY SORRY for your hellacious Journey. I know it all to well. I lost my Oldest Sister that I was closest too, and 37 days later,My Father died. I was most certainly a DADDY’S GIRL. But 10 months later my soul was ripped from me, learning on FACEBOOK that my firstborn, My Chelsea, had been found dead in her apartment. I, like you, agree no other Loss compares to that of your child. It is simply too inorganic! I am so Sorry about Shaun. Thank You for sharing as I will ensure that He is Memorialized Here, at least! Even though you cant hold him, I know HE WILL HOLD YOU NOW!!
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October 24, 2016 at 6:44 pm
Your words were right on point. I had survived the loss of my only child at the time. Never knew I’d be blessed to have another. Still miss my firstborn!.
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October 25, 2016 at 7:38 pm
FLY SLOW SWEET ANGEL!
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November 5, 2016 at 9:40 am
My oldest son died in 2009 at the age of 32 yrs, the drs. told us he was dying so his grandmother my mother mother couldve made it to town before he died But of course didn’t did she not believe me when I told her her first born grandchild was dying? Did she think it would be easier for her not to be here when it happened? I was on the phonen with her when it happened when the dr asked for an autopsy, I dont fucking get it if it had been one of my grandchildren In would’ve been there in a heartbeat!! They wouldn’t dare die without Mamaw beingn there. Her husband was ill at the time but not so ill she couldn’t have left him for a little bit and yes he did die about one yr after my son died so I really haven’t even grieved for my stepfather that I loved with all of my heaqrt. My mother says she put her feelings in a box and closed it and put it up, do not understand this woman at all and if I say anything well it would just be be Dena being Dena dont pay any attention to her it will just feed her anger She’s being a drama queen God what I would give to give a dam about anyone’s drama anymore….
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November 9, 2016 at 7:11 pm
Elijah Lee
Stillborn November 17th 2014
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November 9, 2016 at 9:50 pm
FLY SLOW ELIJAH LEE! Send Mommy a Big Sign!
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November 9, 2016 at 8:03 pm
Fly high my handsome Johnathan February 26,1989 – September 2, 2015. Forever a missing part of my soul.
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November 9, 2016 at 9:53 pm
FLY HIGH JOHNATHAN!! Send Mommy a Big Sign! Let her know that you will HOLD HER NOW, even though she cant hold you. Heidi Be sure to FOLLOW this blog it will be full of HOPE & Coping skills!
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November 29, 2016 at 2:47 am
Lost our only son Jake May 4th, 1986 – December 10th, 2010.
This is a really tough time of year!
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November 30, 2016 at 6:44 pm
FLY HIGH JAKE!! Send Mommy a Big sign so that she knows even though she can’t hold you now, YOU WILL HOLD HER!! That is my prayer for you Cindi. I know this time of year is rough, Friend. Please do yourself the favor of reading my Grief-Busting book, “My FIRST CHRISTMAS” http://www.createspace.com/5068128 it is objectively Power-filled, regardless of what year of Grief you are in! It is full of AIR, HOPE, COPING & POWER to get through these Holidays, or “HOLLOW-days” as they are explained in this 100 pages. We will never Get Over our Loss, but this book certainly helps Us Get THROUGH, TOGETHER!!
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December 1, 2016 at 6:41 am
Dreading this holiday season with out My Son Kyle. 7-27-94—01-27-2016
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December 1, 2016 at 7:18 pm
Karen, I am So Very Sorry that you are even on this journey. Yes the world has Holidays, we have HOLLOW-days, as explained in my book. Ms Karen, please do yourself a great service and read my book “My FIRST CHRISTMAS” http://www.createspace.com/5068128 before Christmas or reach out to me for a rushed autographed copy, if you like. This book is full of the AIR, HOPE, COPING, & POWER you will need to get through the holidays as well as to be on this journey. Please Karen do this and spare yourself some of the Agony. I will be HERE FOR YOU! Breathe My Sister, Breathe! FLY HIGH KYLE!!
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December 1, 2016 at 8:33 pm
Then we also must include all the parents that have lost children as soldiers or victims in war.
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December 3, 2016 at 7:04 pm
Carl That is Also True! I also Thank Them for their & their children service to This Country! They are Greatly Appreciated By Me!
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December 1, 2016 at 9:07 pm
Dear Cat,
You are an answered prayer. Thank you for the encouragement today! I am looking forward to reading your glorious book of healing and to getting to know you and your Angel Chelsea better.
Hugs and LOVE …
Julie
RIH…Rippin In Heaven (sk8ter boy)
Luke Spencer
September 20,1983- April 11, 2014
Julie at arttoday007@gmail.com
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December 3, 2016 at 7:49 pm
Julie, I am so sorry that this is how we meet. I am So Very Sorry for your Loss. As far as the encouragement you found in my words, You are Oh So Welcome. FLY HIGH SWEET SK8TER BOY LUKE!! Julie, I can’t wait for you to read this Grief-Busting, Power-filled book, “My FIRST CHRISTMAS”. It has helped so many Grieving families, regardless of what year of Grief they are in! I can’t wait for you to join the SUCCESS STORIES of the families at http://www.amazon.com/dp/1508492859 you will be able to add your experience after you receive the autograph copy I am mailing you! I can’t wait for your feedback. Be sure you FOLLOW this blog, too, My sister!
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January 4, 2017 at 2:03 am
What a joke! I’m soooo much better than I have been, I got a grip on this grief stuff. Cakewalk!! I am a heaping pile of lies. I kept telling myself that I was over my son’s death. I was with him when he passed. Then, a month later my fav. aunt died, another month goes by, my brother in law died suddenly, then my younger sons best friends Dad passed. We prayed every night for it to stop. In the summer of that horrendous year, both of my dogs died, 11 days apart. Six months later, their dad had to be put to sleep. Not only do I want to read your book, I think I desperately need your book. Thanks for your lovely, caring ❤ heart and words.
Robert C. DiChiara – 1/27/73-12/11/05.
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January 12, 2017 at 4:54 pm
FLY HIGH SWEET ROBERT!! …Lynn Washburn, PLEASE LET ME RUSH AN AUTOGRAPHED COPY TO YOU TODAY. I need your address. I will have you to DONATE the book’s cost. Lynn, I assure you this 100 pages will help you to calibrate your loss of bearings! You have been through SOOO MUCH! Please find the AIR you need here http://www.createspace.com/5068128 or reach out for rushed Autographed copy!
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January 12, 2017 at 5:01 pm
LYNN PLEASE SEND ME A FRIEND REQUEST ON FACEBOOK SO I CAN GET YOUR COPY OF THIS GRIEF-BUSTING READ ON ITS WAY!!
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January 8, 2017 at 5:47 am
Thank you so much for this
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January 12, 2017 at 4:48 pm
I am grateful that you appreciated my work. You are truly welcome, Debby. I have to make a stand for us Every Single Day.
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January 8, 2017 at 8:56 pm
Cat you’re doing such a great job educating. No, there is no comparing any other loss to child loss. I still want to read your first book. Let me know when all are are kindle. Kindle is all I’ve been reading for the last 2 years. Although, I did get your book My First Christmas and it was intense, it was real, and it was riveting. So much appreciate your passion. ❤
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