After your Loss, regardless of when or how you suffered this inorganic tragedy, you feel LOST. You feel like a ‘stranger’, in your own life and world. That is Grief’s “FOG”. (I’ll explain further later)
Do You feel incapable of concentrating and lack the motivation, for most, if not all, of life’s functions? What Can You do about that? I will answer you in this article.
First, there are many contributing factors that compound your ‘Lost’ feeling, including, but not limited to, the abandonment of your supporting cast of family & friends, as well as, “Triggers”. Triggers are explained further, in my book, as those things that the world is unaware of, that slams you back to ‘Ground Zero’, with no advance warning or preparation. My book teaches you how to dethrone or disempower some of these ‘Triggers’ that creates continual setbacks and setups. This also is one of the mitigating factors, that keeps Parents & Grandparents from ‘Grief Graduation’! Think about that.
Now, back to the ‘Lost’ feeling, that makes you feel, oftentimes, that you are going crazy..Read this excerpt, from my book, for that Answer:
SEE? YOU ARE NOT GOING CRAZY, Your bearings are Lost! Your bearings need to be reinstated to solve this, which my book expounds on.
The next thing I NEED YOU TO KNOW is that the “Old, Clear headed, Self-motivated, well balanced, stable YOU” is Gone! He or She DIED WITH YOUR CHILD. Why do I Say this? It isn’t to hurt you. I NEED YOU TO KNOW, that this ‘New Fragile You’ is only as ‘Old’, as the day your child got their wings! Read that again, if you need to. If you lost your kid 2 months ago, 2 Years Ago, or 10 Years ago, THAT IS ‘THIS NEW FRAGILE YOU’ Age. Read this excerpt from my book, then I’ll tell you its importance:
The two-fold importance of this is as follows: 1) As soon as you accept this, You will stop exascerbating your journey by OVEREXPECTING this ‘Fragile Younger You’ to perform, function, or thrive based on the past capabilities of the ‘Mature Un-Devastated Un-emotional You’! Read that again. Stop beating up on this New You, because You (the old you) use to be intelligent or strong or focused or driven. Stop right here and accept all that I have told you! Disconnect from what you thought, prior to this pivotal info! If not you will spend years, spinning wheels, trying to get back to who you were, beating your ‘New fragile You’ up and being a conduit to DEPRESSION! My book will tell you how we go from HERE, from FRAGILE-ville and the second reason: 2) This is important that people around you stop dealing with you as if you are the old you or that they can somehow shove you off your grief mountain and set a magic date that You will return to who you were. I NEED YOU TO KNOW, IT WON’T HAPPEN, IT CAN’T HAPPEN!
What WILL & CAN happen is that you will learn to ‘get through’ and better, based on the POWER OF LOVE! Notice I said, THROUGH, not OVER IT. So stop thinking you just have to get to this magic anniversary and voila you will have made it. Dismiss that. It isnt true, it just isnt. With Support and a daily effort, AFTER ACCEPTING THE THINGS I NEEDED YOU TO KNOW, there is Hope, but the goal will be to get to your feet so your Angel can be remembered and live on, with you, now, Living FOR THEM! This is what I NEEDED YOU TO KNOW! My book, “My FIRST CHRISTMAS”, is the 100 pages of ANSWERS, as you see in these excerpts, that you need, for navigating this Neverending Journey, Regardless of what Grief Year you are in!! This book Supports my Daughter’s non-profit & can change Your LIFE! http://www.amazon.com/dp/1508492859 (read the reviews, then message me on FB or here for discounted rushed copies) We will never get OVER, but we will get Through, TOGETHER!! I just NEEDED YOU TO KNOW!!
December 9, 2016 at 3:53 pm
How can I get your book ?
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December 10, 2016 at 1:50 am
In Ireland, try createspace.com/5068128 and if that doesn’t work, get back to me. If you have an Amazon, you can try there, the formal name for search is “My FIRST CHRISTMAS” by Cathie Gray. If those fail you, let me know and I will get it to you Personally, Sharon!
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July 21, 2017 at 2:46 am
Sharon, you asked months ago how you could get My Grief-Busting book in IRELAND. I am Happy to report I recently sent a book to a reader in IRELAND, myself. I can mail you an AUTOGRAPHED Copy of My Book “My FIRST CHRISTMAS”. Just provide me your address and DONATE (the cost + International Shipping) $25 Direct to My Cause at http://www.thekcamovement.com and then provide me confirmation# of your DONATION along with your Address and I will personally Mail your COPY!! Get me the information on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/cat.gray.710
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December 11, 2016 at 8:38 am
How do I get your book? I would love to read it. I lost my daughter and see so much of me in this book.
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December 28, 2016 at 9:36 am
When I first lost my son I flew out of bed because I had to keep busy every second of the day. I’d crash, some nights, other nights it was a battle to sleep; waking to the horror still affects me. I hate to go to bed because if I doze and then wake it’s like it just happened.
We do learn mind control, that’s the only way I make it through. Now two years later, lack of concentration and depression is the norm. Like you said we have to go through it, we have to deal with whatever happened to our child and how to get through each day without them. Everyone has different lives and so for some it takes longer to bring some balance into our lives.
I wish I’d read your book those first few months, it’s raw and it’s not only for grieving parents, but also for the family and friends.
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December 29, 2016 at 7:59 pm
When my Jayden, my precious little girl only twenty two months old didn’t wake from her sleep I’ve never, ever been the same and how could I be? My journey with grief is not over nor will it ever be, but Cat helped guide me to the idea that life can be liveable even bearable again!! I’m not there yet but with her loving advice and drive to help all those that have lost, gives me hope that i can be just as strong!!! I am not “NORMAL” I am the mother of an angle and I live on!!! Thank you!
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January 12, 2017 at 5:13 pm
Sylvia, I will be #TeamJADABugs Forever! I will Always be here fir you and am SO SO PROUD at how far you have come! I will always be Here for you and am elated that you found and appreciated the AIR & POWER of “My FIRST CHRISTMAS” http://www.createspace.com/5068128 I Love You Sylvia! Keep up the Great Work, Darling!!
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January 28, 2017 at 4:44 pm
Thanks so much for getting in touch with our group of Greiving mothers unite on facebook! I lost my son Adam Nathaniel who was 23 to a CHD which is congentiel heart disease he had since birth he was the first infant with a pacemaker he was less then an hour old they had to put it through his groans then stomach then as he got older his chest! He died in his gf arms in bed they where to be married the following year! He couldnt get insurence because he had a prexciting heart cond.he needed meds couldnt afford them even working no one would help him in 2009 but he lives on helping other people with donating his organs and his eyes now two people can see! Thanks so much! Barbara Levandoski
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February 1, 2017 at 2:38 pm
FLY HIGH SWEET ADAM NATHANIEL! Thank You for Sharing your Angel with me this morning. I am really Sorry to hear this was his plight. I am proud though that his Awesomeness lives on! You should be proud to!! You asked about my book, you can order online at http://www.createspace.com/5068128 or reach out to me on Facebook for Autographed copies. Barbara this book will make an immense difference to your Journey. I anxiously await hearing from you, my Sister.
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January 28, 2017 at 4:46 pm
Thanks so much! I would love to read your book but where do I get a copy from!!
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February 20, 2017 at 11:16 pm
You can get an Autographed copy of my Grief-Busting book, “My FIRST CHRISTMAS” from me direct, on Facebook, or provide your address and DONATE the cost of $16.99 at http://www.thekcamovement.com or you can order one at http://www.createspace.com/5068128
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February 20, 2017 at 11:20 pm
http://www.createspace.com/5068128 to order My Grief-Busting book, “My FIRST CHRISTMAS” or send me a Friend request on Facebook, for Autographed copy!
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